Parenting and Family Resources
- Parents, schools and the
community together work to strengthen, educate and
raise our children. The Hilton School District
provides many opportunities to work with families,
provide information, instruction and counseling.
For further information, contact your child's
CONNECT is an online resource for Hilton CSD
parents and guardians
1-877-356-9211 Crisis Call
Center in Monroe County or 911
211 website - Non-Emergency Information
Parents Need-to-Know Information:
After-Hours/Urgent Care Resource Guide
Monroe County NY
Sense Parenting - a free
course offered to all interested through HCSD Community Education
Consumer Credit Counseling of Rochester
Issues ~ Financial Literacy and the Proper Use
Cyber and Online Safety
Insurance Information for Families
Free, Low-Cost Health Care Option
Mental Health Resources
- includes Sex Offender Registry NYS
Sport and Energy/Caffeine Drinks marketed to
Youth, Report American Academy of Pediatrics
adolescent needs from us as parents is patience,
understanding and sensitivity," Merton Williams Middle
School School Counselor Maureen Rundle told parents at a
parenting workshop, right. "It helps to be a good listener."
10 Things to
Do to foster Emotional Resiliency and Intelligence
Focus on strengths. When
your child brings home a test, talk first about what he or
she did well. Then talk about what can be improved.
Praise specific strengths.
Don’t just criticize things that were done wrong.
Follow up with consequences for
misbehavior. Sometimes parents say things in anger
that don’t curb the behavior in the long run. You might say,
“Because of what you did, no television for a month.” Both
you and your child know that after one or two days the TV
will go back on. Decide on consequences that are fair, and
then carry them out. Ask children how they feel. When you
ask your child about his or her feelings, the message is
that feelings matter and you care.
Find ways to stay calm when angry.
It’s normal to get angry or irritated sometimes. Learn to
recognize “trigger situations” and do something about them
before you lose control. Try taking deep breaths for a few
moments. Consider having a “quiet area” where people can go
when they are upset. Or you can just stop talking and leave
the room for a while. Sit down as a family and talk about
what everyone can do to stay calm.
Avoid humiliating or mocking your
child. This can make children feel bad about
themselves. It can lead to a lack of self-confidence and, in
turn, problems with schoolwork, illness, and trouble getting
along with friends. Unfair criticism and sarcasm also hurts
the bond of trust between children and parents.
Be mindful of how you speak to your
children. Give them the room to make mistakes as
they learn new skills. Be willing to apologize. Parents need
to be able to apologize to their children if what they said
was not what they meant. Calmly explain what you really
wanted to say. By doing this you’re being a good role model.
You’re showing how important it is to apologize after
hurting someone. You’re teaching that it’s possible to work
through problems with respect for the other person.
Give children choices and respect
their wishes. When children have a chance to make
choices, they learn how to solve problems. If you make all
their choices for them, they’ll never learn this key skill.
Giving children ways to express preferences and make
decisions shows that their ideas and feelings matter.
Ask questions that help children
solve problems on their own. When parents hear
their child has a problem, it’s tempting to step in and take
over. But this can harm a child’s ability to find solutions
on his or her own. A helpful approach is to ask good
questions. Examples include, “What do you think you can do
in this situation?” and “If you choose a particular
solution, what will be the consequences of that choice?”
Read books and stories together.
Reading stories aloud is a way to share something enjoyable
and learn together about other people. For example, stories
can be a way to explore how people deal with common issues
like making or losing friends or handling conflicts. Ask
your child’s teacher or a librarian to recommend stories on
themes that interest you and your children.
Encourage sharing and helping.
There are many ways to do this. Together you and your child
can prepare food in a homeless shelter or go on a
fund-raising walk-a-thon. You can help out elderly neighbors
or needy families. This teaches children that what they do
can make a difference in the lives of others.
From the Collaborative for Social and Emotional Learning
"Fostering Resiliency" by Martin Krovetz of the
- ADDICTION AND MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES
Drug/Alcohol abuse "Teen Addiction and
Part II l
Drug/Alcohol Support Services in Monroe
Unsupervised Parties: Criminal Liability
Guide to Substance Abuse and Addiction Treatment
Monroe County Mental Health Options/Resources
National Institute on
National Clearinghouse for Alcohol and Drug Information
Families in Action
Partnership at Drugfree.org--Parents Helpline
and Mental Health Service Association
New York State
Association of Substance Abuse Providers
State Drug Rehab
Intervention Services Inc.
Signs of Emotional/Mental Distress:
- COMMON SENSE PARENTING COURSE
Common Sense Parenting Course
FOOD NUTRITION HEALTH
Health Plus for NYS children up to age 19
Farmers' Markets in Area
Hilton Area Food/Shelter Resources
Nutrition Service Links
H1N1 [Swine] Flu Information
Helping Youth Quit
Resources - food, shelter, furniture, medical supplies
How much sleep do teens need?
CHILDREN AT RISK
Adult Guide to Youth Services in Monroe County
Emergency Youth Services in Monroe County - Youth
Growing Up Online
Grief Resources Grief Resources for all ages l Grief Resources Monroe County NY
Difference between Discipline and
Inside the Teen Brain
It Gets Better
"It's Time to Tell the Kids: If You Don't Do Well in High
School, You Won't Do Well in College [or on the Job]"
American Educator, Spring 2004
Resources Monroe County
Monroe County Youth Bureau
NYS Div. of Criminal Justice
Operation Safe Child
Preventing Bullying in Young Children
Raising Cain: Boys in Trouble
- PBS Special
Resources for Eating
Information from CDC
Talking With Kids About Tough
to Intervene in Teen Drug Use
Time to Get
Help with Teen Drugs/Alcohol
Time to Talk with Teens
What to do if
your child is experimenting with drugs/alcohol
Area Preschools ~ Monroe County
Expressive Beginnings Childcare
Importance of Play
Timeless Parenting Advice ~ Raising Small Souls
REACHING OUT TO OTHERS
Care Opportunities in Monroe County
Hilton Students Making a Difference
Together Including Every Student seeks to link student
volunteers to special needs children
The Advocacy Center [Special